To Believe..What did u Want to Be When you Were 5?

There were so many things you wanted to be when you were young…and in your little mind you always believed that you would and could be.  My little guy who is 8 now had to sit down when he was 5 and write a speech for his Montessori kindergarten graduation.  The topic was “When I grow up”.  This was something that was being done at school as a surprise for the parents and these essays were gonna be read by them at the graduation ceremony!

A week before the ceremony we were talking about general things and I told him he could be whatever he wanted to be… He very adamantly told me he could not as it has already been decided. I was really surprised and taken back by his statement ….I said “What do you mean it’s already been decided?”. Then he proceeded to tell me that he had already written down what he was gonna be and he could not change it anymore as he had already turned in his essay to the kindergarten teacher and it was way too late!  I could only smile, hug him and marvel at the innocence…

He would be in his room, practicing and reading his speech and I had strict instructions that I could not enter his room.  So the graduation day finally arrived and as he stood among the 50 or so kids of his graduating class I wondered what he was gonna say.  Many kids got up there and they all wanted to be lawyers, engineers, scientists, there were even a few neurosurgeons(wow)…I anxiously awaited my son’s turn….he got up there and said..”When I grow up, I want to be an Artist & a Chef”…I was so proud of him that he could get up there and be himself.  Three years later he still has a lot of interest in cooking and  helps me in the kitchen all the time (except when there is basketball or football or golf or now even cricket on TV) 🙂 He loves to watch cooking shows and will even ask me if he can DVR them.  His eyes light up when he sees Indian chefs on those shows..and will call out to me and say…”Mom, look they are making Masala Burgers”!! He was so excited when Aarti Sequeira won the Next Food Network Star, and had all kinds of questions when I showed him the article by Monica Bhide in the Food & Wine magazine on Chef Sanjeev Kapoor.

The only thing that gets in the way of us and our Beliefs is US!! As we grow up, we are always told of what we can and can’t do and we start to measure everything based on those bench marks.  So go ahead and embrace the little 5 yr old in you again and remind yourself that you can be all that you want to be…and it’s not too late!!

In fact it’s never too late..I will end this blog with a short story about a beautiful lady I met at my gym several years ago(9 to be exact).   She was in the pool every single day before my water aerobics class, she would stay in the pool for hours.  One day I went up to her and asked her, “Are you training for something” and she said “I guess you can say I am training….I am learning how to swim..something I have always wanted to do”!! I looked at her and smiled….Did I tell you that beautiful young lady was 95 yrs old…It’s never too late!!

Who knows where my sons dreams & beliefs will take him, but I do hope to be sitting one day at a table on the opening night of his restaurant called FUZZY(even though people may tell him what a crazy name)!!!  We all have TO BELIEVE!!

What did you want to be when you were 5?

Last Inspiring note: A poem written by my 10 yr old daughter(who is 12 now):

TO BELIEVE

Mountains are like goals

You are determined to achieve,

You will not succeed

Unless you really do believe

Beaches are like rolling stones

Moving you towards your fears,

You will only succeed

If you rise above your tears

Mountains are like goals

Beaches are like rolling stones,

Yell in a mighty roar

Believing can make you soar

37 thoughts on “To Believe..What did u Want to Be When you Were 5?

    1. Thx for reading Monica…The poem was actually by my daughter which she had written it two yrs ago! I was actually telling him about your Ispice app 🙂

  1. Very Inspiring , It’s good that you encourage him to follow his dreams, many don’t have that privilege , they are often forced to live out their parent’s unfulfilled dreams …. That was a lovely poem he wrote Ruchi …. do encourage him to keep at it

    1. Thx Frane! We all should be allowed to live our own dreams..I just hope he continues to believe in them! BTW the poem was written by my 10 yr old daughter who is 12 now…

  2. Dont know where to begin ?? Do I tell you how well you express your thoughts through your blogs, or how cute and innocent and extraordinary kids are or how badly I want to salute the 95 year old girl in the pool.

    Just wanted to let you know that your Blog (like all others I have read) made me smile and a otherwise normal day has just become a very happy and awesome day. Thanks again. And if you want I can start giving some fun lessons to the “Best Chef” to be <3

    Regards,

    Samarth

    1. aww….Thx Samarth..I am glad I could make your normal day happy & awesome! 🙂 BTW can u give the classes to the beta and the baap!! LOL! Help the father also BELIEVE that he can cook!!! 🙂

  3. Ruchi.. just a beautiful post.. you children are adorable.. “The only thing that gets in the way of us and our Beliefs is US!! ” Beautiful and so so true..

      1. at 5.. i don’t think i wanted to grow up.. at 15? Promise you won’t laugh.. amitabh bachchan’s sidekick in bollywood..

  4. I am always inspired by young one’s who have decided what they want to do when they grow up.
    I too have a son from childhood days he was going to become an Engineer and when he did become one, we felt now lets get him married and settled, but too our suprise he wanted to become a Doctor and at that time I thought it was impossible, did he prove me wronge.
    I believe that we human beings are always in a search of learning and improving no matter where in life we our, no matter how old we our, the aim is to learn and improve, with that I must say me too being an Engineer, then a Business Analyst and now a Dental Assistant has always been learning and improving with time. Change with time and age is a good thing……Nuru Sarela

    1. Hey Nuru…thanx so much for reading & commenting!! You truly did inspire your son to believe…I hope I can continue on the same path with my son and daughter. BTW with all the things you have done so far…do you remember what you wanted to be when you were 5?

  5. Hey Ruchi,

    Very well said! I am sure when he grows up and follows his dreams he will have your blog to reference back to show his passion was from a very young age. I am glad you are documenting these for him to cherish in his future.

    Regards,

    Sameer

    1. Sameer…..OMG!! OMG!! you read it!! Did you read it all the way thru? Thx my friend!! 🙂 He does not know I wrote this..so let’s see what he thinks when he comes home from school!! But I do know that One day he will appreciate it!

  6. Ruchi…wonderfully written. And to further attest to the ‘believe in yourself’ ,there’s this elegant 84 year old woman who works out along with us whom are half her age. She always has this beautiful smile whenever she works out,be it turbo or cardio kick box…it is her personal dream to lead a healthy lifestyle..a wonderful inspiration to all of us whenever we feel like giving up!!

    Keep on logging Ruchi..enjoy reading them.

  7. This was so well written and i think he has an awesome mom who supports his decisions. Tell him even though i will be Fuzzy by the time he opens Fuzzy but i will surely try to make it!
    a pat goes on Ma and Pa’ s back for having amazing kids!

    What did I wanna be when I was five….hmmm a teacher and i did achieve that!

    1. thx so much Donna..I am rather new to this blogging world so I am never sure how the thoughts will come across…I will definitely send an invite to you when FUZZY opens 🙂 It’s so awesome that you were able to achieve what you dreamed off and how awesome now you are able to help other kids BELIEVE in their dreams! I so respect all the teachers!!

      1. You are doing a fine job at blogging! Keep it up and you can judge that by all the positive comments. i personally think you write from your heart and that’s what matters at the end of the day!

  8. Hey Ruchi, Ishan and Riya

    Loved the blog. There is an innocence in the though of setting a goal for when we grow up. In the end, it does not matter whether we achieve that goal or another. What matters is that we consciously have fun in the process. I don’t think I had a specific goal at 5. I am impressed with these kids who know it and with clarity. Turns our Rohil wanted to be a trash truck driver when he was 5. Thankfully he changed that goal very quickly at 6 to becoming an astronaut, but a pilot first. If if all fails, then a scientist. Now that is a dream we are supporting him with and hope that the trash truck dream is buried under a big pile of….

    Riya’s poem was amazing, please tell her that. We would be proud to see her become the Indian-American Maya Angelou. And proud anyway to hear her thoughts, philosophy, spirit and emotions expressed in beautiful language.

    To you Ruchi, I can certainly attest to your metamorphosis from …… to a person on her own unique spiritual journey. I am glad I could be an observer of your evolution over the years. Many more years of transformations to come.

    Take care and lots of Love to your whole family.

    1. Hey ravi…thx for sharing your thoughts and also on Rohil’s dreams..how cute a trash truck driver!! have to love kids and their innocence! Riya does love to write Ravi and it would be amazing if she could be the indian american maya ..i will tell her you said that..she is a very emotional girl that expresses are thoughts beautifully..she surely takes after her dad!
      See the deeper side of me that you wanted is finally visible for you to see..it was always there..just wasn’t able to express myself!!! 🙂
      Thx again ravi and hope you are having a great trip..will talk to you when you get back!

  9. Ruch
    I’m so impressed you actually have the speech he wrote! Wow! I actually remember sitting in the crowd waiting to hear his choices .. and remember being surprised. Usually there is an obvious connection to what they want to be at that age .. but for some reason he picked chef and artist. I dont really rememeber guiding or influencing in any way. I think some kids/people just know what they want. Others .. (like me) .. just get lucky and stumble into something they like and are good at. And I think you are an example of this as well. Looks like you have stumbled upon something here. You should take on a bigger writing project. You are good at it .. and i think people enjoy reading what you have to say.

    Make it happen .. BELIEVE

    BTW – When i was young ..i wanted to be a pro tennis player.

    1. jaan…what can I say!! Thank you so much for your encouragement..I truly am enjoying writing and who knows what’s in store!! I am in awe of people that are born knowing what they want to be in life..that reminds me of the poem that I wrote..will have to share that next time!! You did get lucky meri jaan…and you know you are good at everything you do..because you do it with a passion and sincerity like no other! I do believe and will continue to do so with your support! Love ya!
      I did not know you wanted to be a tennis player..its still not too late..I am sure they have a seniors group you can join!! LOL!! sorry..couldn’t resist!

  10. thanx for another great read ruchi. keep on writing…looking forward to the book, “chicken soup-desi style”!!! anyway, i wanted to be a flight attendant. i’m not exactly sure that i was five, but it was definitely before we moved to the states when i was eight. i just thought it would be so cool to be flying all over the world all the time! in this day and age, it’s no big deal to jump on a plane to go some place, but back then it was a great big deal! to this day, this would be my career choice. the reason i did not pursue it goes back to what you said about our parent’s expectations of us. not that they would have stopped me, but i just thought more about what would make them happy. in fact, i never really conveyed to them my desire of wanting this career. maybe i should have and maybe they would have encouraged me…………………it’s so very important to have an open communicative relationship with your kids. not only is it essential, but crucial in determining their happiness and yours!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    1. Hey suni..Thx so much for the encouragement!! Chicken soup for the desi style sounds like a great Idea!! Hmm!! You can still be a flight attendant girl!!! I know a lot of indian parents would not have stopped us but we as kids felt some responsibility to make them happy!! I think we still do that as adults..:) I totally agree with you on the open communication…let’s keep out fingers crossed and hope we can get an A+ in that!!

  11. This is really so inspiring and beautiful ! Keep writing and streading warmth and positivity. The world needs it !
    Ayon

    1. Thx Rimly! Yu are so right..we do need to let our children have their dreams and we need to give them the toold to help them along the way not hinder their process! I just watched Patiala house yesterday and it’s all about how to live your dreams and not anyone else’s. The path to happiness resides in your passion. When you are pursuing a path, and you feel like you can’t go on..it’s your passion that will carry you through those moments! ..So here’s to our kids dreams and their passions!! I am sure his passions will change as he gets older…but I as a parent promise to support him! Thank u so much Rimly for your wonderful comment..I love reading your blog..thx for inspiring me!

  12. What a great poem.
    This young man seems to be poised to take on the world as he decides to and to do whatever it is he will want to do.
    Wish you great luck in the many adventures of your life.
    If you ever want to come visit Devi and sit and chat, I would LOVE to be at your table, hosting you, listening to you and learning from you.
    Suvir

    1. wow!! Suvir..I feel so honored that you actually took the time to read and write back!! The poem was actually by my 12 yr old daughter! It’s my 8 yr old son who wants to be the chef!! if we are ever in NYC..would love to stop by Devi and try your yummy cooking!! He had the biggest smile on his face when I showed him your response just now!! I wish u all the best on Top Chef Masters!! Just love your attitude on the show!! Looks like you have so much passion for what you do!! – Ruchi

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